Quick Question: Why does this decision feel hard?
Quick Question
Here is today's quick question for you...Why does this decision feel hard?
Sometimes, a pros and cons list just doesn’t cut it. When a choice feels unusually tough, it's often because something else is going on. Maybe it challenges our values, our identity, or our vision of the future. Decoding that difficulty is the key to simplifying the decision.
Ask it when you're...
Procrastinating - When you find yourself avoiding a decision that looks simple on paper, consider why you might be resisting.
Feeling disproportionately uncomfortable - If the emotional weight doesn't match the practical stakes, there's usually something underneath worth exploring.
Getting conflicting advice - When trusted advisors are pulling you in different directions, the difficulty might stem from competing values rather than unclear facts.
Listen for...
Try to listen for:
Identity tension - when the decision challenges how you think about yourself.
Values conflict - if different choices emphasise different principles you hold dear, that’s a good place to start.
Fear of judgment - sometimes the hardest part isn't the decision itself, but how others might perceive our choice.
Follow up with...
Sometimes, the greatest value comes from the one extra question you take the time to ask.
In this situation, you could try…
What am I afraid this decision says about me?
Which of my values are competing here?
What would I choose if I knew I couldn't fail?
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